Different perspectives on bullying

Childs View

Children who are concerned with bulling are the most important aspects of the situation and they are not yet mature enough to know why bullying takes places. It can have detrimental effects on their lives without them even knowing. Children find it difficult to establish if they are actually being bullied or they are bullying another. Some are surprised when an action is redeemed as bullying.  Children who are bullying do not always recognise their behaviour as being bullying and intimidation but simply as a disagreement or argument. The one thing that is clear is that children recognise it is bullying if it is continuous and happens on more than one occasion.  Children who are being bullied too fail to recognise at first that they are actually being bullied it is not until the anxious and fearful fears take hold that they realise something isn’t right.

Professional Views – Teachers

Most schools take bullying very seriously as they are not only concerned about the child being bullied but also the reputation of the school as parents would not want to send their child to a school that is seen to allow bullying. It is true that it s not always clear to see what a school is doing to tackle the bullying as parents often comment that the school have no real force over bullies and if they did less bullying would take place. Teachers believe that if they can get a good relationship parents and open communication channels bullying can be kept at a limit. Teachers advertise that they are open and understanding to possible issues at home and if parents advise them on this they can deal with the situation to prevent the child feeling isolated and insecure therefore preventing a possible case of bullying.

Most teachers feel that bullying is usually due to a primary underlying concerns very often an issue at home or with fellow peers. It has been said that the way children behave whether good or bad has a legitimate reason and the child just needs to be understood. If the behaviour is deemed wrong then it is highly possible that it is ‘a cry for help’.  Children need to learn about boundaries and how to communicate with others on all levels if this type of teaching is not taught then the child can very easily run into behavioural difficulties such difficulties some teachers see as bullying.

Parents View

Parents dealing with bullying whether your child is the bully or being bullied find it to be a difficult time.  Being a parent is a learning process than comes without a manual or textbook and as children are unique so can situations they go through in life. Parents often feel anxious and helpless when dealing with bullying as they are at a loss on how to tackle it. Dealing with a bullying situation can be an emotional time and can have a huge impact on the whole family. There in no one set of instruction that tells a parent how to deal with a situation. Obviously there is help out there and guidance but they find it difficult to locate such services and not any one situation is the same and must be dealt with accordingly.

A parent may have been bullied when they was little and may notice the tell tale signs immediately  and know in fact how their child is feeling and have a better perspective on how to deal with it. For those parents who have never encountered such situation dealing with the issue may seem more difficult but remaining calm and understanding is key, even after the situation is dealt with the child will still need encouragement and support.